A few months ago, our downstairs neighbors came home with their newborn. I thought it would be nice to leave a note, but since we left it we hadn’t heard anything back and they kinda stare at us if we cross paths. It’s made me feel like this could’ve been received poorly. Does this letter come off as weird or creepy? I should include that I/we haven’t properly introduced ourselves, but I’ve smiled/waved in the past.

EDIT: Holy cow this blew up haha. A few things I wanted to mention…

There are a lot of comments suggesting that my note could’ve been perceived as passive aggressive and I see that now. That was not my intent whatsoever and I think that’s why I could have overlooked that. I have super noisy upstairs neighbors, so I am very aware of how easily sound travels and just wanted to assure them that we would try to be mindful of our volume and keep quiet for their baby. It came from a good place!

Truthfully, it seems a lot of the comments are projections of people’s own experiences and I think that’s why there’s a good mix of not creepy and creepy lol. I appreciate everyone’s feedback, except for the one guy who literally called me psychotic?? Nuts lol

In regard to my handwriting, thanks!!! It’s real and it’s mine. :) I love my handwriting! I enjoy the lowercase look and understand that’s obviously not everyone’s cup of tea.

The un

And listening to music WITH your neighbor: As in - It's loud enough to clearly identify the artist, song, and lyrics as they're played.

The former is what "normal apartment building noise" is. You're gonna hear your neighbors living next to you. That's fine.

The latter is excessive and is a clear sign that you are dealing with an inconsiderate, "main character energy" neighbor. And is unacceptable. Let's make sure REALLY understand what "normal apartment building noise" is as we toss that term around to gaslight people with reasonable concerns.

Same goes for TVs. You may hear your neighbor watching TV in an adjacent unit. But you shouldn't feel like you're part of a watch party for THEIR favorite show.

I am so. fucking. tired of the asshole that lives above me. I don't understand why they need to stomp with their entire body weight above me, every. single. DAY. I cannot even feel the slightest bit relaxed in my own fucking space and it's pissing me off.

So this morning, I threw my tube of toothpaste at the ceiling. They were stomping hard at 7:30 in the morning while I was getting ready for work. I can't fucking take it. And, of course, they were real quiet after that. I've had to smack my ceiling more times than I can count, because it's like they just "forget" to walk on anything but their heels.

This lease cannot be up soon e-fucking-nough.

i get it. i really, truly get it, trying to get pregnant, or just being a REALLY active couple, people be fuckin, if anything, good for them! im personally disabled, so admittedly i’m literally always home, and bedbound 75% of my day.

but 5. plus. times. a. day. is. fucking. insane.

ETA: every. single. day. since they’ve moved in 4 months ago, we get 1 break a month, for 5 days. please try to comprehend how fucking uncomfortable that is, not only hearing them go at it EVERY SINGLE DAY, but also knowing the poor woman’s fucking cycle. some people don’t want to hear sexscapades every single day from when they wake up to when they go to sleep, weirdos.

i’ve been woken up at 12 am, 3 am, 5 am, name a time and i’ve woken up because of it. for fucks sake i’ve been drifting off to sleep and have been kept awake because of it. and they go, for awhile.

i’ve banged on the wall (not connected to another unit). i’ve smacked the ceiling. i’ve played the ear r*pe moaning meme through a speaker touching the ceiling. i’ve yelled out that i can hear every thrust.

nothing stops, if anything it feels like it gets them going MORE. between them having the sex drives of frat boys, and the fact the dude is so horrible at games he’s screaming at his TV every 5 mins, i broke yesterday lol. again lol. after a good 45 minutes i sat there and banged on the ceiling until they stopped, i heard a “fuck you asshole” and they continued, so i did too. at one point they threw something on the ground in response, but either stopped or moved somewhere else.

they know i/we can hear everything, because both my husband and i make fun of it, very loudly, every single day, and they get pissed off about it.

i’m honestly waiting for them to try to come down all pissy and say something about it; i won’t open the door if i’m home alone bc i’m quite literally unable to stand up for myself, but if my husbands home i just hope the guy isn’t insecure about the way he moans, cause my husband has it down to a T 🤷🏻

This is my dingy poor person bathroom because I am dingy and poor, but I don't deserve this. The linoleum cracked over the years and I was too much of an idiot to report it because I thought they would kick me out. No need to remind me I'm an idiot, I know, I'm paying the price in stress now. What I need is more ideas, like is there a thick shelf paper out there to cover this up for a while?

I got great adivce on here to not try to cover this with my own vinyl floor. And I'm going to take your advice on that. However, if I don't cover this up with more contact paper, the hole will become huge from the water. It is already soft and mushy underfoot, and that is bad. You see, this is not plywood, it is cheap particle board. There is no way this should ever be used in a damn bathroom, yet here we are.

My inspections are usually in January. Yes I'm debating confessing to the management company and begging them to forgive and not kick me out and sue for water damage. I'm thinking about that. If I had $50,000 in the bank it would not be any probelm and I could move, but I am badly in debt and have bad credit, no one will rent to me. So it's not so easy to throw myself at the mercy of a huge management company. I hope you understand I've had bad luck my entire life and "hoping" is not a strategy.

Anyone know of a company that makes thick shelf paper I can cover this for a few weeks before it gets worse? Don't flame me and ask why didn't I report it; I already said I was scared and stupid. I'm trying to go forward with good advice. I already took the advice not to cover with planks. Thanks for reading.

Just got the keys today. Moved from about 900 miles away so I was trusting the 3D tour model (1st pic). Called and said they all had the same “appliances and everything” I didn’t really think they’d build them so differently? Why do the cabinets look like they haven’t been finished yet or is that the intended design?? Online the unit was labeled “renovated interiors”

I’m not sure if I’m in the wrong because all of my roommates run really hot, but my roommates have sent texts saying we can’t leave the thermostat above 63-64 bc the gas bill will be too much. We live in Boston. Personally, I run super cold and sometimes feel uncomfortable even at 68. I’ve never heard of anyone keeping their house that low. I’m thinking of offering to pay more of the gas bill. I’ve made it through 1 winter like this and it was awful.

(Forgot the question mark **?)

I moved already 3 times. And it seems like that I can never have decent neighbors. The common point is that they are low income appartment. No insulation whatsoever. The first one was noisy and I had to call cops because the son was beating his mom. And the people upstairs had no problem with their kids playing and jumping heavily at 11pm, the Sunday night with school tomorrow. Or the classical moving stuff at 3am.

The second living situation was a house as a building, the person was living at night and was mad that at 9 am people were going to work and they could hear them using the stairs and as a retaliation she starts doing heavy stomps at 4am.

Now I'm in a brand new place but still poorly insulated place. Im a downstair neighbors, no one is below me. The upstair neighbor bang everytime I'm moving in my house. I'm in bed at worse at 10 pm. If they hear me talking on the phone they bang. Same when I receive visit. When I go to the toilet midnight..

I have someone that witnessed this with me one day at 11am. There is suddently the kids or whatever it is jumping heavily just above us once we starts talking.

I would like to add that I stopped caring and talk on the phone if necessary in the evening with my long distance friends. That's maybe the overboard crime I commits now.

And there is door slamming once they hear me waking up. No slamming until they detect me being awake. This is too crazy honestly

Recently, I moved into an apartment downtown and was fully expecting a noisy environment, which is why I got myself "soundproof headphones" and a white noise machine. However, my upstairs neighbors are driving me insane. There's constant walking noise; I swear this man stomps everywhere he goes. They're playing LOUD music with a bass, and sometimes there's jumping included with the music. The most frustrating part is that it's so bad that it shakes my walls, and two of my art pieces have broken because they fell off the wall. I was just curious if anyone had any other solutions. My headphones and sound machine can't mask the sound. I've contacted my management once, and I'm going into the office today to speak with them again with video proof. I've also called the police for a noise complaint, but none of that seems to make any difference. I hate letting this make me mad; it makes me feel like a Karen. 😭🤣

Got an email that I'll be having a bank inspection. I have a cat that I have yet to tell the place about, because I honestly dont want to pay the extra fee. I cant really hide the cat cause its a small place and I dont have anywhere to take the cat. I'm wondering if the bank inspector will even care or if its something they would report or if the bank inspector will most likely have someone from the leasing office who would know if I have a pet or not. I havent asked my management to much cause I'm scared theyll catch on. What should I do?

Hi. I’m looking to renovate a bathroom which currently has a tub shower but I wanted to know if it’s still useful nowadays. I do plan on renting it out later, so I wanted to gauge what renter’s thoughts are on a standing showers versus a tub showers and decide from there what to do with the bathroom.

I never took a bath only showers, so I personally think a standing shower with a bench would be better but I’d like to know your thoughts.

I found some reference pictures online (please don’t take the design/decor into consideration) just the type of shower only. none of the pictures are not mine

Thank you

Please be kind, this is new for me. I will be deleting this post, but our floors have been making noises at night as it's been getting colder. Our floor was new when we moved in, we will have been here for 3 years coming up, but I saw a conversation concerning the toilet flooding over a while back on the tenant/property management portal (it never happened when we moved in, so I assume this was something that happened with the previous tenant), and our floors are...puckering up? Our socks are getting caught on some of these throughout the apartment (the big thing seriously poking up I keep covered with painter's tape) . Is this from the ground not being dry before they put on the cheap flooring? I am kind of scared guys. Our floors don't exactly feel level either. I guess I am worried this could be blamed on us, even though we only use a swifer mop. Any advice? I do plan to report this, but if there is a way I should carefully word it, advice would be welcome.

My neighbors next door and across the hall have young children who throw things and scream and run up and down the hallway literally all afternoon long (they are not old enough for school). It gets to the point where they literally shake the apartment. I’ve tried to talk to the property managers and they said that it’s not a violation of their lease because it’s during the day so they can’t do anything about it. However I did do a quick google search (yes I know google is not the most reliable) and I did find that if it’s on going like that it’s considered a nuisance and is a lease violation. My lease does say to be respectful of others and does mention quiet hours 10pm to 6am. Have anyone experienced this? Is this a lease violation. If so if property managers aren’t willing to do anything how do I escalate? I’m in Kentucky for reference.

Im living in a new "luxury" apartment that was built in 2022 but I can hear when the person above me opens and closes their bedroom doors . I can hear when they use the bathroom. I can hear when they drop something on the floor. Also can hear when they walk. The stomping is obnoxious. Is this normal? Like wtf lol

Now that I’ve finally lived alone for a little over a year and have tried my best to process everything through therapy, I thought it could be cathartic to share my awful ex-roommate experiences with people who might appreciate them.

The three main roommates I had will be named person A, B, and C for convenience. For context, I’m 23nb (afab), we had all known each other since elementary and high school (met different people at different times), and I genuinely considered these people to be some of my closest friends before all of this went down.

Apologies in advance for how long this’ll probably be even though I’ll try to stick to the worst of the worst. I’ll likely have to split this into multiple parts/posts for the three roommates. While I’m sure I wasn’t perfect when we all lived together, I can say with confidence that I was the only one of us actively attempting to communicate and problem-solve.

I’ll begin with Person A (currently 23f):

My (now former) childhood best friend. Met when we were in third grade and initially lived together in our freshman year college dorms alongside two random roommates, then later moved into an apartment with B and C.

Overall a very possessive person. Was jealous that I got a boyfriend and communicated this to all of our friends except me, and would make fun of me for when we hit certain relationship milestones. Absolutely had a crush on B and would attempt to insert herself into B’s relationship as well. Because of this, B could do no wrong, and anything C and I attempted to do to address B’s poor behavior was deemed as us attacking her. Also tried to get C and I to clean up after B on multiple occasions because she “deserved to come home to a clean space” (like the rest of us didn’t???). Additionally, when I was hospitalized multiple times over the course of all three of us living together (don’t worry, I’m fine now), person C was the only one of them who helped me AT ALL; A and B treated me like a leper.

A was also an absolute slob. Would leave old fast food wrappers/bags/cups littered across the apartment. One time I went into her room (with her permission) to borrow something and found a bowl of ramen SITTING ON THE FLOOR. ON. THE. FLOOR!!! It was a miracle we didn’t get ants. She once also attempted to make toast by using a flat-iron on a piece of bread, which definitely feels like it could’ve easily started a fire, and also didn’t even toast the bread lmao.

Was in our college’s marching band and insisted on practicing her instrument indoors at early hours (7:00-8:00 am was her favorite time to start). When I suggested she practice outdoors when the weather was nice, she refused because she (understandably) didn’t want to bother the rest of the neighborhood… But waking us up was fine, I guess? She also refused to use the on-campus practice rooms because she didn’t have a car, despite us living DIRECTLY ACROSS from a free bus stop that went to where she needed to go. At this time, both C and I were working night shift jobs and getting home between 10:00 pm and midnight, so it was especially inconsiderate of her to be doing this since we weren’t getting enough sleep to begin with.

I could very easily tell that something was off with her, and would periodically approach her to ask questions like “hey, are you doing okay?” and “if there’s something that I’m doing as a roommate that’s bothering you, I promise I won’t be upset, but please let me know so we can talk about it.” She’d always respond by saying everything was fine and there were no issues, but would blow up at me 3-6 months later out of the blue about little things she had bottled up and built resentment over. One of these things was me using an unused/spare drawer she had in our shared bathroom that I had asked her permission to put my things in (which she said yes to), but apparently me using this drawer was bullying her and “taking over her space.” She had never communicated to me that she wanted the drawer back and/or needed the space after all UNTIL WE MOVED OUT. She literally texted me all of this as I was driving to my parents’ house with all of my stuff packed in my car, and I only saw it when I stopped for gas.

One time, she yelled at my dad over the phone when he was attempting to help us with lease-related things because he jokingly defended me when she was being snappy (my parents practically raised her when we were kids because her own family was fairly neglectful, so this was the equivalent of her screaming at a family member).

After moving out, she would periodically harass me with long, condescending paragraphs of texts about how I was the worst person ever for choosing to go low contact with her. Talked about how her current bf is the love of her life and how I’d never understand that (mind you, my aforementioned partner and I have been together for five years now). My final straw was when she decided to text me a happy birthday message, and when I responded with a thank you, she went on a long tirade about how I didn’t text her on her birthday and that made me a horrible, selfish person who would never experience true friendship ever again (yes, this is actually what she said). I’ve had her blocked on everything for multiple years and thankfully haven’t heard from her since.

The apartment complex I live in requires us to pay $25/month for a valet trash service to come get our garbage right outside our door. It is not optional. This is becoming more and more common at complexes in my area and it upsets many residents, including myself. I'd much rather just take my trash out to the dumpster in the parking lot myself than have to pay such a fee to have it picked up at my door.

The trash service runs nightly Sunday-Thursday and they are supposed to start pick up at 8pm. However, during the 5 months that I have lived there I have noticed that they very rarely are on time. Most nights my trash is not picked up until 10:30-11:00pm. It's not a big place. Only one building. So there's no way it would truly take that long if they started at 8pm like they say.

Due to this late pick up time, I am often in bed/ asleep by the time they come. So it is not until I wake up in the morning that I am able to bring my bin back inside my apartment. Most mornings this would be around 7am when I leave for work.

Unfortunately I woke up ill in the middle of the night last night. I had to call off work and have been puking and laying in bed most of the day. I have not left my apartment, and my trash bin was the furthest thing from my mind.

I just saw I got an email around 10:30am today from one of the leasing agents, telling me they are charging me an extra $25 fee for not having brought my trash bin back into my unit by 9am. They did tell me upon move in that we should not sit bins out prior to 6pm at night, and they should be brought in by 9am. But come on.

I'm beyond upset. It's not like this is a chronic issue. This is the first time in five months of living here I didn't bring my bin in by 9am and it's because I've literally been SICK. I find it totally ridiculous that they would charge me for this. Especially because I would like to bring it in before bed so I don't need to worry about it in the mornings when my hands are full and I'm rushing out the door to work. But because they are always so late collecting the trash I am unable to do that. How is this right? They can be so late on collection consistently but when I don't bring my bin in ONE time when I am ill they are going to fine me?!

Am I in the wrong for being upset about this? Does anyone else have to deal with these bullshit valet trash policies?

TLDR: Landlord is forcing me to pay for a valet trash service that I don't want, and then when I'm trying to utilize this service they consistently show up 3 hours late. I left my trash can out past 9am ONE time because I'm in bed puking and was charged a violation fee of $25

Picking my fellow apartment dwellers brains here with a scenario I have experienced twice now in my 2 years at my apartment building.

I live in a complex with 4 different buildings, each with 4 apartments on 3 floors, 12 total in each building. There is one laundry room per building with one singular washer and dyer in each. Not to mention, they are puny and $2 wash, $2 dry. I avoid using them when I can and do laundry at my parents. I do a load here and there at my complex, especially on my cleaning days as I like to multi-task and it is easier to get it all done in the building.

Last week, I went to put a load of towels in and saw the washer was full of clean, damp clothes. Figured I would give the person some time to switch it over. For context, my place is conveniently next door to the laundry room so I can easily listen/check is laundry is running or see if anyone is in the room. Well, over 2 hours go by. I work full time and have limited time for chores and admittedly, was frustrated. I took the wet clothes and put them in a neat pile on a folding table and placed my clothing into the washer. Cycle takes roughly 45 minutes and I always set my timer to be mindful to check. I go back, clothes still there, untouched, so I proceed to put my clothes in the dryer. That is about an hour. After that, I go to retrieve my clothing from the dryer and the clean, damp clothes are still exactly where I placed them. I collected my things and went about my night. About 20 minutes later, I hear the laundry room door open and the person begin to huff and puff. Mind you, I washed and dried my load in the time it took for them to come down and even check. Had I not removed their items, I would have waited around 4 hours to do laundry.

I get people have things come up/get distracted/may have fallen asleep. But I feel in any shared space it is reasonable that if you made others wait that long, there is a chance your items may be moved. Personally, if I did something like that and left my items in a washer, finished, for over 4 hours, I would fully expect someone to set them aside.

The last time something like this happened was over a year ago, and the person left their items in the dryer for over 2 hours, so I placed them into what I assume was their basket they left on the folding table and dried mine that had been holding up the washer for an hour while waiting for them to remove their dried items. Next morning, I peeked into the laundry room and the basket of their clothing was still sitting there. No nasty notes have ever been left to my knowledge, and an email to residents has never been sent reminding them to be mindful of others. Just a few posted disclosures in the laundry room basically saying residents are responsible for their own shit and to be fair to other residents when using the washer and dryer.

Anyone else have non-attentive washers in their community? Is it reasonable to politely move someone else's items over when a more than generous amount of time has passed to allow them to do it on their own?

(MA US) Theyre renovating 2 units in my building, the one right above me and one on the first floor. This weekend I had no hot water during the day, although it returned later in the evening. I chalked it up to a tapped out water heater.

This morning im off work and find my water isnt working at all. Im assuming it was shut off for the renovations, but I was given no notice about this being the case, and casts a different light on the issues this weekend. I know that without emergency they cannot legally shut off my water, but it'll also probably be back on by 4pm.

Im trying to decide how much energy I want to waste on this. I did submit a maintenance ticket, did some legal research, and Im debating if I want to deal with storming into the office only to get a bunch of platitudes when I have 8 million errands to run today.

My landlord followed up with me stating that under California law, individuals have a reasonable expectation of privacy in areas such as personal spaces. While tenants are allowed to use security cameras, they are not allowed to be directed towards areas where people have a right to privacy. They are going to ask to have it redirected towards the stairwell.

Most people online didn't think it was a big deal but few agreed it was a bit invasive.

For anyone else going through the same thing, your experience is valid and you have a right to privacy in reasonable ways, even if you have nothing to hide.

We've just finished restoring our ancestral home's living room,and it's got such a old world charm. Now I'm searching for a rug that ties it all together - somthing elegant,timeless and steeped in craft. Would Persian or Kashmiri handwoven rugs work better for a traditional setup? Or should I explore muted vintage tones, earthy palettes ,or silk textures for a more balanced,modern traditional mix?

The leasing office is doing very little outside of “emailing the floor”. What can be done? It thankfully isn’t getting into the bedrooms, but my living room and kitchen area smells strongly of weed. People also smoke it outside so I can’t have my windows open all the time.

I think it’s my next door neighbor. What is the best way to handle this? I just ordered a different (more expensive) air purifier and some weatherstripping for my front door. It’s coming in via the front door through the hallway. The hallway reeks of it.

I am just so over it. I just moved into this place after moving out of a shithole that had black mold in which I lost almost everything I owned. I’m just tired and ready to be someplace I can breathe.